Personally I think we need to get away from 'This is my system and this is all that can be discussed here' . ...
I don't think Stooz or I want to behave in that kind of way. If you read back through my posts on this discussion and elsewhere, you will see me use the phrase "live and let live" a few times - albeit with caveats. That applies to the site owners and it also applies to each poster respecting each other.
Someone used the analogy of being a guest in someone's house. That's not a bad one, so let me expand on it. The TMF house was like a large apartment block where many different families lived. Lemon house is a smaller apartment block sitting around the corner. The owners of Lemon House know many of the Motley families and often visited their apartments and joined in the polite respectful chat. Although there was the occasional tiff, it was generally very friendly and people were rarely chucked out and the police never had to be called. So rehousing those families in Lemon House has been nothing but a pleasure.
However, there were always rumours that other apartments in the Motley block had trouble - apartments that the Lemon House owners never visited. Some of those who regularly visited those apartments warned us about the wild parties that they had there - that there were fights, the police had to be called regularly, that people got hurt. Some apartments had to be broken up and some members had to be moved to an adjoining apartment. Furthermore, the owners of the Motley apartment block had to pay for lawyers to defend themselves because of the activities that went on in some of the other apartments. Bad things had been said and they were sued.
While the owners of Lemon House are keen to rehouse these people too before Motley Towers is demolished, they want to make sure that the rehoused families know the standards of behaviour that are expected and the possibly consequences if they are not.
Oh and there is also one very fundamental difference between Motley House and Lemon House. Motley House was built for profit, yet created a wonderful community that worked very well. It was closed for financial reasons. Lemon House has been built with no expectation or plan of financial reward - it was built so that people could be re-housed. If you like, it was a philanthropic gesture which makes the creators of the site feel good about themselves. And you know what the great Victorian philanthropists were like - they only wanted to help the 'deserving poor'! In other words, lack of profit isn't going to close this site, but if it becomes a pain to manage then things could get closed down.
I'm taking this a bit too far and I don't want to patronise anyone. We are all adults and if we respect each others views and behave well, then there will not be a problem. It is about being respectful to each other and NOT bringing any historical personal spats and petty enmities over here