stewamax wrote:The replies so far appear to assume that compliments relate to appearance.
Because I think that is the interesting case. If someone is painting a scene and you know something about art and can make a affirmative comment about that art, then there is little risk to that. It is when you comment on physical appearance or personal demeanour that it gets a little more risky.
Arborbridge wrote: I'll get compliments about my gold or sparkling shoes. On one occasion a young women noticed I had exactly the same brand of sparkly silver trainers on which caused some hilarity - I'd been caught out, because they came from the ladies shoe department. Well, men's shoes can be so boring, so I poke around the ladies trainers for something more interesting.
You're a better man than I am, Gunga Din. (Someone told me one shouldn't say that any more but it was my thought given that nearly all my clothes are black).
More generally I think giving compliments (to women, anyway) can be a minefield so I would restrict myself to where all these are true:
1) I have something original or authentic to say, to avoid the risk of being perceived as sucking up or, worse, chatting up.
2) It's not anything obvious but rather something subtle and unusual that maybe many people would not notice.
3) It is in an open, public space where either party can naturally move on.