Howyoudoin wrote:Mike88 wrote:Being an older dad at 52 is daunting. I can only recall my experience of being a grandad at that age with responsibility for looking after the child. It was a shattering experience but the best thing about it was when the child was handed back to their parents at the end of the day. Children are great - they really are - but very hard work. They will always be a problem but the saying that children are always a problem to their parents, as the problems change with age, is correct.
If you have any choice in the matter I wouldn't recommend having a child at the age of 52. My son is great and I regard him as a friend as much as being his parent but you will be 96 when your child reaches 42/43. I recall that when my wife had her child at the age of 28 some 43 years ago she was regarded as being an older mother.
Hi Mike, I understand your concern but it's not fair to say that you are so happy with your son and I will be too old to do the same.
It's a very different world from what it was 20 or 30 years ago.
People are aging better and healthier than they were when I were a kid; today's 70 is the 50 of years gone by.
So most anecdotal experiences in this area from folk (in this forum at least I'd wager) are likely going to be out of date.
The age of parents matters much less than it used to; health and general condition is much more important than age
My eldest has just finished high school and her friends have parents between their 30s to late 60s
The distribution of fuddy-duddies was pretty even among them
Hope it's all going well; start stocking up on sleep.
-sd